Part 2: How to Get Your Shit Together
By Milly Hailstone
If you enjoyed the first part of my How to Get Your Shit Together series, I’m about to serve up another reality check. This is part 2, and it’s going to get deep. Whether you are a spiritual babe or a total non-believer, there are many things you can do to achieve growth, and I’m not just talking about your financial life. Getting your shit together and finding happiness is a personal journey, and to begin you need to look after your physical and mental health.
1. Slow Down to Find Clarity
I’m 24 now, and I’m feeling strangely mature.
Since moving to Lithuania, my life has slowed down and I like the direction I’m headed in. By partying less and leading a less busy social life, I’ve been able to find clarity about what I want - at least in the next few years. Instead of blindly accepting that I must work for someone else to earn money, I’ve been able to open up different avenues in my life and figure out exactly where I want my career to take me.
You might be working a job that you don’t like - but how long do you want to continue? Do you have a plan for the next chapter of your life?
2. Make Some Life Decisions
Ok, that last question might have shook you a bit. Apologies, but someone needed to say it. Now, that I’ve snapped you out of your current reality, you need to get clear with what you want in your life.
Realise that you are in control, the reigns are in your hands.
You alone have the ability to change your life for the better. You just need to be brave and go for it. Maybe, you’ve got a passion that you put on the back burner, in order to spend your time making money. Ask yourself, if money wasn’t an issue, what would you be doing with your life?
Maybe you’d travel, maybe you’d write, or maybe you’d paint. If you’re truly passionate about something, you definitely have the tools to make a living from it. Prove the naysayers wrong. Start now. Decide what the rest of your life looks like.
3. Stop That Negative Talk
This is easier said than done, but if your focus is on positivity rather than talking bad about people, your life is sure to change for the better. If you’re giving out positive vibes and intentions you will see more of that - though you should know that it’s the same scenario for negativity.
Next time, you make or hear a judgmental comment, try to catch yourself and change the subject. Like attracts like, after all.
4. Practice Self Love
This is a big one. But, what exactly is self-love? I see this term written all over the internet, but I feel like no one is actually describing what it is. For me, self-love is making time for myself - and I don’t mean wasting hours watching Netflix. Aside from working, blogging, sewing, and living with my boyfriend, I need time for myself. For me, it can be reading, meditating, respecting myself, and eating healthily.
What makes your soul feel good?
5. Work Out, Like At Least a Bit
I’m so guilty of not following my own advice here. But, I know that if I pushed myself to exercise more I would greatly benefit. You’ve got to release those endorphins, am I right?
At the moment, my morning routine consists of stretching and yoga - so it’s not all bad. Slowly, I’m planning to incorporate more movement in, but I don’t really enjoy dates with the treadmill. In my teen and childhood years I loved team sports, and literally lived to play football. Instead of joining a gym, I know that I should join a sports team. Or maybe self-defense classes? That would be cool.
If you dread visiting the gym, find another way to work out. I know there are great home work videos on YouTube and 1,000 apps you can download. It’s all about finding what works for you.