How to Stop Negative Self Talk & Start Loving Yourself
By Milly Hailstone
What do you say to yourself when you look in the mirror? As much as I hope it’s compliments and loving affirmations, I know that this isn’t the case for most people. If it’s more like “you’re ugly", “you’re fat", or “you don’t deserve love”, then we’ve got a serious problem on our hands.
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Stop Bullying Yourself
I get it. I talked to myself this way for years without even realizing I was doing it. I'd look at my body in the mirror or my face without make out up and tear myself to shreds. Do you do the same? If so, it's time to leave negative self-talk behind and start treating yourself how you are worthy of being treated.
Today, I want you to start being mindful of what you tell yourself. Instead of looking at that part of your body that you don’t like or calling yourself stupid, stop what you’re doing. Catch it right there and change your thought pattern.
One rule I keep: If you wouldn’t say it to your best friend, mother, or a stranger on the street, why be so nasty to yourself? You’ve got to be your own biggest cheerleader, not your own worst enemy. Once you’ve started to be mindful, you can replace these mean comments with heartfelt compliments. Before long, your mind and body will become a lot nicer places to live.
How to Turn Your Self-Loathing into Self-Love
I imagine you came here because your interested in self-improvement, right? So, I’ve got a little challenge for you.
I want you to find 5 things that you love about yourself and write them down inside your anxiety journal - if you have one. The point of this exercise to get familiar with things you love about yourself so you can replace your negative self talk with love. I also want you to add mirror work to your morning routine. Simply put, this is looking into the mirror and repeating positive affirmations.
You can start by looking into the mirror and again telling yourself these 5 amazing things. Sure, it’s going to be weird at first (like something from The Sims), but it’s going to get much better from here out. Together with mirror work, journalling, and mindfullness you can change your thought negative patterns into ones that are full of love and happiness.
If you've been bullying yourself for years, it's time to stop. I'm really just scratching the surface on self-love in this article, but if you'd like to gain some more knowledge you need to read Louise Hay's book, You Can Heal Your Life. Also, Sarah Blondin has some excellent (and free) podcasts on the subject which you can find here.
What do you to promote self-love? I'd love to know, please write a comment below.