How to Stop Caring What Other People Think
By Milly Hailstone
If you've ever hesitated for fear of being wrong or sounding silly, you need to stop caring what other people think. Don't tiptoe around others or act the way they expect you to. Never let the status quo hold you back. This kind of behaviour will make you become a follower, not a leader. Why be a sheep, when you could be a wolf?
1. Realise That No One Actually Cares
When my anxiety occasionally rears its ugly head, I think everyone is staring at me and talking about me. Obviously, this isn't true - everyone is far too wrapped up in their own world to give a damn about what I'm doing or wearing. But, on some days, my annoying brain still tries to make me believe others are plotting my downfall or laughing at me.
Like 90% of the time, this simply isn't true - you just need to start believing it.
2. Stop Being a People Pleaser
By being a people-pleaser, you literally open yourself for others to walk all over you. I used to let people take advantage of me because I always wanted to help them - even if it had a negative impact on me.
I thought by putting myself first I would appear selfish, and in the process, I became a doormat. These days I'm always standing up for myself and fighting for my opinion to be heard - I mean, this is what this blog is all about! Look after yourself, and love yourself THE MOST!
3. Surround Yourself with People Who Celebrate You
There's nothing more draining than hanging around with someone who second-guesses you and tells you that you can't do something. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life!
Consider spending less time with people like this. Ask yourself if you actually like spending time with them, or if you are just doing so out of habit? We've all had 'friends' that we don't actually like. *highschool flashbacks*
If you surround yourself with people who put themselves down and are generally negative, you'll start accepting that is okay behaviour and begin applying it to your own life. Bad vibes are contagious!
Instead, you should break out of your comfort zone. Do something that scares you. I'll be facing my fear of heights soon, and my fear of driving on Lithuanian roads. Instead of fear, think of it as growth! Without challenging yourself, you'll stay stagnant and boring.
I have a challenge for you - do something today that scares the crap out of you! I promise, you'll feel great after.
4. What to Do If Someone Actually Gives You Shit
All you need to know is that somebody else's opinion of you is NONE of your goddamn business. I heard Ru Paul say that on Drag Race and it's changed my life. Seriously.
I've been getting a fair few Facebook comments on my vegan blog posts, but there's no point to let someone else's opinion get to me. It's their problem, not mine.
Everyone has completely different perspectives, and we all live our own truths. So, instead of being obsessed with what others think (or probably aren't thinking), stick to your own values and be true to yourself. When you're walking on the correct path, these worries melt away and you can focus on what you're meant to be doing.