How to Get Your Shit Together: Part 3

By Milly Hailstone


Are you bumbling through life with little to no guidance? Well, you’ve come to the right place. My ‘How to Get Your Shit Together’ series is helping messy millennials everywhere get their life on track. I’ll be honest, I’ve learned the hard way and made mistake upon mistake – hey, maybe I did that, so you don’t have to? Anyway, I’m here to guide you through your early to mid-twenties without any bullshit.


Missed Part 1 & Part 2? No stress.


The struggle continues. I’m still occasionally partial to a mental breakdown, but my most recent ‘oh no, my life sucks’ moment ended with me claiming back my independence and embarking on a journey of self-love. Today, I’ll explain why and when to join the gym, how to put yourself first in a way that isn’t selfish, and why you need to start a side-hustle.  


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Release Those Endorphins, Honey


A lot of people dread the gym. I used to think that people running on a treadmill were just like hamsters in a wheel. But, I was wrong!

In today's article, I'm serving up my third install of the "How to Get Your Shit Together' series. I'll be talking about the benefits of exercise, how to put yourself first, and why starting a side-hustle can unlock your salary potential. 


I’m starting to become one of those gym girls. Ok, I’m not Instagramming pictures of my booty or anything, but I’m beginning to enjoy working out. Actually, I feel goddamn proud of myself. If you are wishing you were fitter, or maybe you gained a little winter weight, no stress, it’s time to take back control by working out.


Admittedly, signing-up and getting your butt down there on a Monday morning is the hardest part, but once you are over that hurdle it’s pretty great. The key is to start off slow. Try out some different cardio machines, if running scares you opt for the cross trainer, or for an easy start take a ride on the stationary bikes. Then, move over to the weight-machines (though nothing too heavy) or get down on a mat and do some sit-ups, leg raises, or squats.


On my first day, I was a little sheepish, and that’s okay if you are the same – you gotta break out of your comfort zone! It might be a good idea to book an induction, so you can figure out exactly what all those torture-looking machines do.

Now, let’s talk about the impact my new life of fitness is having on my mental health. My anxiety has basically disappeared… (for now at least). Seriously, they weren’t joking about exercise! It’s good shit.


I start ‘Pilates for Foreigners’ next week, I’ll let you know how that goes.


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Put Yourself First


Alrighty, now that you are contemplating joining the gym, let’s move on to our next topic: putting your needs first – I’ve found that this is the key to loving yourself.


There comes a point where you can only stretch yourself so thin. But, many of us are constantly living to please others in a way that is harmful to ourselves. So, I’m telling you not to be a doormat any longer because you matter and so do your feelings.


For example:

-       There’s no need to ‘go with the flow’

-       There’s no need to do what other people want you to do

-       And it’s perfectly fine to tell somebody ‘no’.


A good friend of mine once said to me, “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.” And honestly, that’s the most real quote I’ve ever heard.


Related: What is Self-Love?


Aside from other people getting in the way, start to do things to benefit yourself long-term – like going to the gym maybe? Even if it’s hard at first, you’ll be happy you did it in the long run. I think it’s constant excitement, growth, and adventure that humans need to feel happiness.


I live in Lithuania right now and being a typical ignorant English person which means I’m not really down with the language. It’s effort and it stresses me out. But, I’ve abandoned my comfort zone and have started taking Lithuanian-only speaking classes. I’m struggling, like a lot, but I know I’ve got to put up with the stress it causes me to be able to benefit myself later on.


Is there something you’d love to do? Or, maybe something you’ve been putting off for a while? The only thing holding you back is yourself. It’s time to get started, don’t you think?

Just make sure you aren’t selfish about it, though. Finding balance takes a little work at first, so maybe you can learn from these examples:

-       Treat yourself by cooking your favorite dinner. But, be unselfish by remembering to make enough so that bae can eat some too.

-       Don’t fancy meeting a certain friend tonight? That’s fine, tell them you can’t make it. But, don’t then proceed to hang-out with some else and then post selfies together on Snapchat. That’s uncool.





Get That Money


Okay, now for some career talk. You probably want to earn more, right? Or even start your own business? Go for it. It’s never too late to start, and you’d be surprised at how little money you need to get on your feet.


Right now, Straight Talk is my side-hustle but with time it’ll blossom into an unlimited source of income. If you think that sounds great, you should also figure out a way to make some extra money online.

I have a little challenge for you, I want you to get inspired and change your mindset. I want you to read Rich Dad, Poor Dad. It’s an iconic financial book. Okay, I know what you’re thinking, “She wants me to read about finance? Boring!”


Well, you’d be wrong about the boring part – this book is funny, insightful, and could potentially land you with a real money-making idea. I mean, it’s pretty much convinced me to become a real estate investor…

Don’t be scared to have ambition. It’s 2018 – we can do fucking anything! There’s no reason you need to live on minimum wage any longer, but you must know that you are the only person that can change your future. No one will simply hand it to you.


Go get it girls (and guys).